Live Unbroken Again

So many things in life are broken.

You don’t have to be.

Even though this world is filled with beauty, it is just a matter of time before everyone experiences some degree of brokenness through pain, disappointment, or even sudden trauma. The saddest scenario of brokenness is a broken life, heart, or dream. Getting unbroken again requires a miracle outside of personal strength. It demands intervention from a Source greater than the pain.

You can live unbroken again, no matter where you are today.

Are You Broken Now?

You may be broken as you read this. Raw pain whirls you into a quest for survival on a daily basis, while too many questions and not enough answers leave you numb. Survival is at the order of the day. Who will help? Where is the logic in what you are experiencing? How to understand may be beyond your reach, but what the future holds is your biggest fear. Broken. Oh, the pain of being broken.

Were You Broken Once?

You may be the one with a story in which you were taken through hell and back. You are keenly familiar with the landscapes in the valley of the shadow of death, but made it through safely. Serious wounds have left scars that will cause you to never forget. Pain has changed you, mostly for the good, but most probably with an aftermath that requires another level of faith to live your best life.

Should You Have Been Broken?

You have gone though a huge storm and somehow emerged unbroken. All the reasons for complete collapse surrounded you, yet you were able to endure. You are a miracle, able to leave the past behind and move on to a future with hope and normalcy. You’ve overcome incredible odds that only made you stronger. No bitterness or blame. You are the exception to the rule of lingering pain after injury.

Are You Living With Brokenness?

You may be called to live in broken circumstances, realities that will probably never change as long as you are alive. Somehow you are filled with strength and courage that enables you to live victoriously, able to fulfill your responsibilities every day. It is crucial that you remain unbroken in order to face the brokenness that stares you in the face at every turn. Short-lived moments of weakness probably overwhelm you from time to time. The long haul could take its toll, so stay wise and healthy at all cost.

THE WAY OUT

You may not be out of the woods yet

If you have gone through unspeakable pain in the past that you can’t seem to shake, you need to know that while there is life, there is hope. There are times when you can’t muster up enough hope or courage to believe for a better future.

You may be looking for a way out instead of a way forward. That’s when you need others. That’s when you need a miracle.

That’s when you should be still and receive strength from someone else. You may have to trust those who love you—the people in your life who truly care about you. It may be time to also believe that God relentlessly loves you and wants to bring you to a place of healing again.

My heart breaks for you right now, because I know the fury of trauma and disappointment, whether caused by circumstances, other people, or even your own stupid mistakes. No matter the backstory, you are important to God. Your life matters, you are alive for a reason, and there is a way to wellness for your soul. Whether circumstances change or not, your heart can be healed and strengthened in order to find joy again.

**Realize it may take time.

You have time. You have today—so calm your heart and give it time to heal. Time does not heal all wounds, but for wounds to heal takes time. Where you are today is not where you need to be next week or next year. Time will bring you to higher ground.

**Realize it will require help.

You are strong, yet life has a way of overwhelming us all at times. Trust someone who can help, whether it is a family member, a personal friend, or even a professional who has the knowledge to coach you through the rough spots.

**Realize it may involve change.

There may be things in your life that need to change. Holding on to relationships, jobs, habits, or memories that push you down will take you down. You are allowed to surround yourself with people and influences that bring you value, that recognize the giftings in you, and support you in reaching your God-given potential.

**Realize that the God of the Universe created you.

He wove you together in your mother’s womb for a time such as this. He knows pain, He knows your heart, and He is ready to deposit His power in your life in order for you to be stronger than your worst enemy. You don’t need to wait for a sign or angels to sing to you, but cry out to God any time. Surrender your life to Him and experience a brand new day!

You may have to make a living in the woods

If you are required to live in painful circumstances that may never change, you need to know there is a way to live unbroken in the midst of brokenness. It may be a family member who chooses to live in a way that causes pain, a diagnosis that lingers while you believe for healing, a permanent consequence of horrible decisions you’ve made, a job that seems to suck the very life out of you while you know you are called to stay, or a person who you wish would go live on another planet but is meant to temper and teach you. You may have to deal with life and death decisions or situations daily that require intense focus and patience.

How do you survive?

How do you thrive?

Is it even possible to thrive?

Is there a way out?

Maybe for you there is no way out, but there is a way in the midst.

**Deal with the blame.

Do not allow blame to fester in your soul. You have done nothing wrong to deserve the pain, and even if you have, God’s mercy is bigger than your biggest mistake. I once heard people gossip about a baby born blind; they speculated that it was because she was conceived out of wedlock—an easy lie to believe by the ignorant! How foolish! If that were true, we’d all be dead and gone because we all have messed up at some point. Whatever lie is eating away at your soul, while you have to deal with living in the midst of heartbreak, shut it out! Send it back to hell where it originated.

**Divide and conquer.

Separate your identity from the source of your pain. Even if it is physical pain, do not let it define you. What if it is problems in your marriage where you are called to be “one”? What if the problems are not of the kind that warrants you to leave? (If your life is in danger, or that of others, get help and leave!) One of the greatest skills you could ever gain in life is the ability to remain in unity, tight relationship, and life assignment, while your unique identity is separated from the problem. A good example of this is how married couples seem to be incapable of dealing with problems without assault on their personhood. Separating who you are from the problem will enable you to deal with the problem in a healthy way. You are not your pain. You have great value and, to God, you are created perfectly.

**Find your tribe.

There are others who go through tough stuff as well, who you may have to find and connect with. You may be the only one in your circle of connections that deals with what you have to face daily, or it may be that you will find a tribe with others who are familiar with your pain. Any which way, you can’t do this alone. Take action to connect and be part of a tribe. Who is your tribe? Those who care about you and not only themselves, those who offer you a safe place to connect, those who accept and celebrate you, and those who are willing to be the bridge you need to walk across to reach your destiny. Healthy living requires community, so if you don’t have one, do whatever it takes to find one.

**Tap in to the Divine

You need God. Plain and simple. You were never meant to live only in the natural realm. You are a spiritual being with spiritual capacity, desires, and abilities. God, who is spiritual, created you. There is more to life than what we can observe with our physical senses. When you surrender your life to God and become a follower of Christ, you enter into a spirit-to-spirit connection with God which opens a brand now world in your life. God is not mad at you, but the Giver of all that is good, and you are invited to surrender your life to Him!

Living unbroken is for you

You do not have to live broken and drenched in the sorrow of overwhelming circumstances. There is a way to life and hope again, no matter what is happening in your world right now. All the answers may never be known this side of heaven, yet through wisdom, support, and power from the heart of God, living unbroken is possible. It is your destiny.

It is time to celebrate

If you’ve been broken but now are healed, you have reason to celebrate. Somewhere in your journey through pain, God protected and healed you. Don’t ever forget where you come from, what you’ve been through, or be ashamed to tell your story if you know it could help someone else. The world needs to hear your miracle, your story, and your victory, so reach out to those in your world and celebrate your miraculous life!

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Photo: Perfection growing from old washed out part of PCH, Pacific Coast, Northern California